It is likely that anyone might become consequence of
domestic violence. In Vietnam, it has been one of the biggest problem that 58%
of women possibly deal with recently (Thanh Nien News, 2015, cited in “Domestic
violence in Vietnam”, 2016). “Domestic violence can impact anyone regardless of
their gender, race, age, culture or religion” (Kanchiputu & Mwale, 2006 ). It has a variety of forms, namely
emotional abuse, physical attack and sexual violence.
There are factors which make up internal aggression, but the root cause is lack
of background knowledge about it. The problem is worse due to outdated views which mean in order to maintain happiness in family, women are tolerant and they still
continue to suffer from their husband. Meanwhile, being a bread-maker even, men
seem to treat their partner unfair anytime for unreasonable causes. Moreover,
kids who have forgettable childhood aimlessly become victims of domestic
violence in their family. According to Beth & Brett (2013) ,” Keeping
silent is dying”, however, it
is likely that fighting against internal abuse is a long-term strategy. It is high time for victims to have more chances to
raise their voice and be paid more attention from different groups, both
neighborhood and local community. Thus, this research will provide updated
facts, discuss the effects of domestic aggression and suggest efficient techniques
to protect victims from this issue.
Discussion of findings
Shocking evidences of domestic violence in Vietnam
“For many years almost every Vietnamese woman took
it for granted that unconditional service to men is the natural function, a
required sacrifice, and an expression of self-denial, necessary in the role of
women in the family” (Le, n.d.). Representing womanhood in different discussion
forums, a numerous women admit that they are suffering at the hands of their
husbands due to unreasonable understanding of partners in their daily lives.
“Domestic violence is a problem but it is basically a silent problem”
(Beth & Brett, 2013). In lieu of raising their voice for assistance,
victims silently stand during a long period. According to Dr Nguyen (2016),
“some women think that it is karma and they are suffering for something they
did in their past life”. Traditionally, women have poor background and they are
likely accepted that it is their destiny whether they are beaten by their spouses.
Another bigger issue in Vietnam society seems to be the fear of losing dignity.
Many women feeling ashamed about what had happen to them intend to hide it from
anyone. After marriage, the happy times end quickly because they might give
their life to the service of their family, including their husband and children
in any circumstances. It seems that women beaten up daily for many intolerable
years make every effort to endure life as a human punch-bag. To protect victims
from fierce actions, the law which is called “the Law on Gender Equality and
the Law on Domestic Violence Prevention” is enacted by the government (Asialife,
2016). However, this problem may be difficult to address, for most women
do not know their rights. In addition, stereo type of Vietnamese women is to
stand sacrifices and hardships. They suffer both physical and psychological
pain in lieu of accusing their husbands of their violent behaviors in order to
avoid family separation and their children.
Effects of domestic violence
Women face to domestic abuse
Women who are most at risk for domestic violence have
coped with physical abuse caused by their husbands. It is clearly seen that the
common feature of any situations between two genders is an imbalance of control
and power. Male representing bread-maker
in their families still do not remove thinking that their wives do not complete
responsibilities with their families and often talk back to them in
neighborhood. They constantly use physical actions which bring about injuries
to victims if they tend to run into stiff resistance. Besides, behavior denying
essential needs of victims is physical violence. Men have a tendency to beat
their wives and ignore them when they desire to be helped. In several cases,
women also suffer from sexual abuse. Women accidently become winebibbers or
drug addicts as drugs seem to help them to forget their painful bodies.
Besides, emotional abuse is likely behavior that threat, intimidation, or the
victim’s freedom limitation. Psychological violence is impolite statement or conflict
action that might affect to human dignity. Abusers have a tendency to make
efforts to keep victims from contacting with their friends and family. They deem that the victim could not leave the
relationship with them because victims impossibly rely on anyone except for
them. Isolation contributes the victim’s internal strength damaging and
self-defense ability loosing. In many cases, those women often get several
troubles which relates to their emotion in lives. They tend to have negative
thinking and tackle with problem by suicide. Unexpectedly, results of various
studies illustrate that “victims of domestic violence are more likely to
maltreat their children than those who are not abused by their partners” (UN
2010). It is worth that they should be received condemnation even though they
unintentionally make wounds of their children.
Children are influenced by domestic violence
Different from Vietnamese women, children are
accidently become consequences of domestic abuse in their families. “41.2%
respondents said that domestic violence affects to the abused child to lose
interest in education” (Kanchiputu
& Mwale, 2016). Sometimes, it takes victimized children redundant of
time to do household work, even they absent from school due to verbal aggression and physical injury.
Those youngsters could not concentrate on their studies and often have flashbacks
about the abuse (Jaclyn, n.d.) which resulted from
different misunderstanding of their parents. Children’s behaviors are also
influenced negatively by internal violence at school. It is certain that they
use aggression as a way which they could get what they want. The reason why
boys tend to become more aggressive is that girl students consider it is
normality at school. In the majority of cases, children witnessing domestic
abuse seem to have less chance to enjoy their wonderful childhood than others.
They often grow up independently instead of being taken care by their parents.
It is probable that victimized kids hide their feeling at home and behave as
uneducated people in society. Children are like “a pressure cooker waiting to
let out the stream” (Rebecca, 2011). Certainly, domestic violence causes
negative emotion of the victim who may find it difficult to trust their
partners in the future marriage. They are often more aggressive in any
circumstances and they treat unfairly to their members of family such as verbal
abuse and non-verbal abuse. In many cases, children affected by the violence
might have a terrible long-term
impact on their lives (Jaclyn, n.d.).
violence might to be tackled efficiently
As claimed by Gender and
Development Research Institute, 49.7% of families are broken up because of
family violence (Binh, 2011). It is necessary that this problem should be
solved as soon as possible by both individuals and the Vietnamese government.
Regarding women, they have a duty to make enquiries carefully about future partners before their marriage and
they also should understand more about domestic aggression to protect
themselves whether it happens. Therefore, women ought to raise their voice if
they realize that they are victims of mistreat in their homes. Nevertheless, it
is high time for the women to maintain good relationship with their spouses by
listening to them to share with them and taking care of their families. In term
of children, they had better give numerous good advices to their maternities to
limit unexpected harms for the victim of violence. Furthermore, being witnesses
of domestic abuse, children should not behave violently as way their parents
treat each other. With regard to the Vietnamese government, they had
better illustrate that what a serious violence issue! Besides, the authority
should expand financial-support organizations and provide safe accommodations
for the victim (Legal Guide, 2017). As stated by the FindLaw (n.d.), there are
many non-profit groups dedicated to helping people cope with domestic abuse.
However, those groups had better help women to be economically independent in
their daily life (Cohn, 2014). It is necessary that the Vietnamese government
make penalties for internal violence. People using violence likely take full
responsibility for their act before law of avoiding domestic violence in
updated facts have pointed out that domestic violence seems to develop more and
more seriously in Vietnam. As stated by National Study on Domestic Violence
Against Women in Vietnam (2016), one third of 5,000 women aged from 18 to 60
year-olds accept that they have suffered physical and sexual violence at the
hands of their husband. This epidemic is apparently popular problem in most
families due to misunderstanding of several aspects between couples in their
lives. Women who suffer both physical and psychological injuries likely become
major victims of this matter. Although children only witness violence from
their homes and their neighbors, their studies also are badly influenced.
Furthermore, creating personality of children tends to change negatively
because their parents generate imagines of broken family in their awareness and
the fathers accidently teach them who are kids that using violence is the best
way to tackle with problems. The Vietnamese government has enacted
law relating to women in order to protect the victim from internal abuse.
Moreover, the inhabitant should join hands to get rid of domestic violence in
the near future.